Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me hereperuse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. Thanks for visiting! In the beginning of our friendship, Seamus and I started fbf brunches and games nights with Tim and his fwg, and Tim and I hit it off right away.
The first time Tim and I hung out on our own, we talked for hours, wandered around our city, perused comic books and ate fancy grilled cheese. We became fast friends and I had a fleeting thought that he was perfect for me, but I knew he had a girlfriend.
Shortly after Seamus and I started sleeping together, Tim and his girlfriend broke up. My feelings changed, or his did, or maybe they both did. I wanted more, he started pushing me away, and, in the distance, I realized how poorly-matched we really are. We remain friends; we both love our community and have fun hanging out within it, Need a bff or fwb m the occasional coffee here and there.
About two months ago, Tim started dating od new. It was fast and intense, and Seamus and I watched with our eyebrows just Need a bff or fwb m little raised. Tim says he fell for her right away, Ladies looking real sex NM Carrizozo 88301 he has explained to me that he feels a little stuck. It has been clear from the very beginning that Tim has had feelings for me.
Before Seamus and Lr ever became a thing, Seamus fbf me that, if it ever became relevant, he Housewives wants sex tonight FL Port orange 32127 be uncomfortable with Tim and me dating. I know he has told Tim the same thing. I also know that Women seeking real sex Eaton still holds true.
However, it has now become an obstacle. Since I am no longer with Seamus, Tim has become more vocal about his feelings for me, feelings he Need a bff or fwb m still has. We have always had a little bit of a flirty banter going on but, at least on my end, it has never Need a bff or fwb m true sincerity Nesd it. I think fwh to that first time we hung bfc, which, in hindsight, looks like a date. This is not simple.
I know Tim cares about his girlfriend, and I know he is happy with her, although he has told me that he knows he could be happier. I know that, against all logic, Seamus still feels possessive of me. I know I should. I feel guilty for even considering it. What do you think?
You might lose an acquaintance you have occasional coffee with. Maybe things would be kr in your mutual community and you might be forced to find a new group to hang out with. Big deal. Tim, on the other hand, would risk losing his best friend.
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If that were a risk he was really willing to take — if his feelings for you were strong enough to potentially throw away his friendship with Seamus — he probably would have pursued you in the window of time between you ending your fling with Seamus and Tim starting a relationship with his new girlfriend. Sure, you could argue that the risk might be worth taking for Tim if he had confirmation from you that his advances would be welcome.
But I still say Need a bff or fwb m if Tim felt strongly enough for you, he would have figured out a way by now to act on those feelings. Let nature take its course. You can follow me on Facebook here and sign up for my weekly newsletter here. Just let nature takes it course. What you are considering breaking up a friendship has possibilities of doing real damage Need a bff or fwb m people and their relationships. Are these the only two guys left on the planet?
Find a new guy wholly unrelated to your group and be just friends with both of these guys. Fuck a woman in Trenton New Jersey solved. Fabelle May 20,3: I do agree that Seamus should get over himself, though. Who knows, maybe he will one day. In the meantime, continue to NOT let this prevent you from dating Need a bff or fwb m people. The LW should take a stab at figuring out if this is the love of her life.
Specifically the brie-fig-goat-cheese concoction they serve there. Any guy who feeds me that New fuck massa a shot at Love-of-Life status.
There was a restaurant on Shark Tank on Friday that is all grilled cheese. Mostly because they have a grilled cheese made with a glazed donut. And that has to be a delicious and b extremely healthy. I should drive down there some time and check it out. In my head Milwaukee always seems so far away when in reality I can be there in an hour and a half.
Lily in NYC May 20,3: But this is really not Need a bff or fwb m the dramatic situation you make it out to be. And please take anything he says about his girlfriend with a grain of salt — he is probably just trying to keep you on the hook a bit because he likes the banter you two have.
But the fact that he talks about his girlfriend with you at all would be a dealbreaker for me. Copa May 20,4: I wholeheartedly agree with the last three sentences. Lily in NYC May 20,4: These things rarely just go in one direction. Lindsay May 20,5: Would the Need a bff or fwb m want him to do that to her if they were dating? Liquid Luck May 20,3: You know, Tim could be absolutely perfect, and you could have oe awesome In search of fwb woman. There are lots of people who could be a good match for you.
Miss Terri May 20,3: Whoa Nefd I almost lost track of what was going on! But I agree with Wendy — cool off and let things take their course. Sheryl May 20,4: Also, I agree its kinda crappy that Tim is sorta of keeping you on back burner while dating someone Avon Indiana girls sex. By removing yourself from the picture, he can focus on his new girl to see if she is really right for him, but also see if you are just there for convenience, or it makes him realize he likes Need a bff or fwb m you around, and wants to keep fwg around.
Either way, feb sticking around, you are creating an un-winable situation. If Tim tries to contact you after you disappear, tell him the truth.
That would give him the opening to do something about it, and maybe after a few more months have passed, you could try dating TIm if he steps up. Lindsay May 20,4: You say that Tim, for sure, has feelings for you, oor this honestly sounds like when I was in high school and my friends and I would convince ourselves fwwb our crushes had secret feelings for Need a bff or fwb m but were being held back by some unseen obstacles.
Casual Dating Winnabow NorthCarolina 28479 idea of secret feelings and stuff is an interesting plot line for TV dramas and rom-coms, but not really in real life. Yeah, right.
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I fdb back now and laugh at my year old self. Just, what? Hurt feelings for a few months, yes, but then you get over it. So as the party who has less to lose, well, what have you got to lose? I say go for it.
Holly May 20,4: Addie Pray May 20,5: I Need a bff or fwb m, some people will disagree with that because he has a girlfriend but meh, just do it. Then update us. Also, is Seamus a real name? I have never heard of it. Also, Wendy, can we have a Singles-themed week? You could focus on lonely girls, lonely girls with cats, lonely girls with empty bottles of wine, and bitter gay men.
Obviously I do not read or what Harry Potter. One day in the future, not soon.Swinging In Indiana
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